Man #18 was an arrogant womanizing PIG. I befriended him just to get the "male pig" perspective. He actually told me that he joined POF simply to fuck away the memory of a "hot chick" that sucked dick like a porn star. I seriously don't know from what planet he thought a woman, even a friend, would want to hear that shit...but he blurted it out..... SO, I started asking questions. Asked why he wanted to go out with a woman who didn't "suck" very good? Being that he stated he could not get off any other way. Things like that. It was quite insightful to talk to a man who seemed to genuinely not like women. Most of them he called "bitch" by default. I have encoutered men who like sex more than relationships before, but none of them seemed to think so lowly of women as he does. Most of them LOVE women, just don't want to be in relationships.
Man #19 is from a long time ago and actually lives about 400 miles away. I almost drove down to see him, but decided I was just not desperate enough to do so....so he is on the back burner as emergency plan B. Should I find myself horny with no available options and in a state of despair.....I just might make the pilgrimage.
Man #20 was a little too boring for the conversation to get off the ground and into a date. We just faded away.
Man #21.....OMG....what a freak show. At first things were going great, we talked and he seemed "normal" so we decided to meet that friday. Then he started getting carried away with sex talk. I told him that I was uncomfortable with the subject until after we meet. So instead of dropping it, he started making inuendo's toward sex. Being a very horny woman, I went along with it even though I had this nagging feeling. He also during this sex talk, kept refering to me as "her/she". Seems that often, i have discovered, that many men feel the need to "sell" themselves sexually....in order to get a date. It was in his "pitch" that he would make the reference. "SHE is always pleased"...."I'm always gentle with HER"........how wierd is that? As the weekend drew near, I became increasingly unsetteled. Then Friday afternoon I was asked out by man #15.....finally. So I said yes and cancelled on man#21. While at first this might seem cruel or self serving....in the end it was a blessing in disguise.....despite the kharma related ending it had for me....which I will get to in a minute. So when I told man#21 that my ex was not picking up my kid (the excuse given for cancelling) he freaked out and said he HAD to see me....THAT night and frantically asked for my address....home address. I told him that I don't have men over at my house on a first date or when my kid is home. He insisted and asked if I could come out to the street or something. He went on and on about how disapointed he was, that "I" knew how much he was looking forward to meeting me. I knew instantly what that "nagging" feeling I had been having was about, and it was THIS. I knew he was going out of town the next day, yet the next morning he tells me that his trip was cancelled and could I meet him that night. I told him I already had plans for the evening that I could not get out of. And with that, I never heard from him again. WHEW!!!.....but as for the date I accepted to cancel on this guy.......read on.....
Man#15......We had been messaging on and off for about a month and it finally progressed to the point of a date. Mind you, I didn't instigate this date, nor did I suggest it. He always appeared to be a nice and respectful man and we had great conversations online. He asked me to meet him that night, I said yes and we decided to meet in the middle. about a 40 min drive for each of us. We texted right up to the point where I was pulling into the town in question when he cancelled saying he got a call that his kid was sick and he had to go get her. He seemed genuinely upset that he couldn't make it.....and I havn't heard from him since. So how is that for kharma? I get stood up by the guy who I stood up another guy for. Kharma....she's a bitch!
Man#22....This is a WTF? kind of guy. Ya know....one that I am REALLY attracted to, he says the same thing....and poof.....vanished into thin air before it ever got started. Damnit!!!
Man#23....he was a cutie, we talked on the phone, he seemed sweet and normal. We were texing alot, sent a few pics and whamo......"I want to lick your Ass"......That was also during the week with the other freak....so I just never replied to the text. He sent me a few more that I didn't reply to. He got the hint and left me alone.
That was a few weeks of my life I'll never get back. But I learned some valuable lessons. Number ONE...is to listen to my gut....the pervs just give off signals...I clearly have a radar for it....so I need to listen to it. At this point I am thinking.....I am done with online dating. Just have to play out the last two guys I'm chatting with first. Regardless of the outcome....I'm pretty sure online dating isn't for me.
~S~
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